Collegiate Issues/ Boundaries and Family Issues/ Trauma

I started meeting with Robin when I was in college. I had a long history of issues with my father who is an alcoholic. My father was having some serious medical issues at the time and I began to question how I would feel if he died and I never forgave him. I was referred to Robin by a teacher. As a social worker, I didn’t think I needed help. That I could solve my problems on my own, but Robin gave me a fresh perspective on things. Per Robin’s advice, I wrote a letter to my father, expressing all of my issues since early childhood, and how all of the problems that had originated with him still affected me. I let him know he led me into damaging and very negative relationships and that I never learned how to love myself.After reading my letter, it took him a little time but we finally had a productive conversation and I couldn’t have done it without Robin’s help. I learned tons of strategies even on how to better deal with my relationship with my mother and sister and better deal with my emotions. A few months later, my goals were being met so we ended our sessions and I went on my way. Almost a year later, I found myself in an abusive relationship, because despite all the progress I made, I still had not changed how I saw myself. Robin now had her own practice and surely welcomed me back in. It took weeks for me to open up about the seriousness of my need for therapy at this time and to let Robin know I really needed help. She reminded me of all the work we had done and never pushed me to make decisions I wasn’t ready for. Robin helped me process the whole situation week by week. It took me about 6 months to end the relationship completely, but I know it probably would have been longer if I didn’t have Robin’s help. My battle was not over though; I know had to get past the damage I had allowed to happen to me. Robin taught me great techniques to get past the bad memories that I still use today. I am so thankful for all the help that Robin gave me over those two years. I definitely can say I am a much stronger woman today!